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If he truly doesn't want anything to do with you or the kids, move back to family. You'll need them!
Feeling lost
Husband decided after an argument that he doesn’t want to be married to me anymore, see me, talk to me etc. he’s also decided not to financially support me anymore and we have two children. It’s only been a few days since he’s saying this and some say “he’s just angry” I don’t believe that’s true. He’s never been to this degree before. I’m trying to weigh my options so that I don’t just jump into anything head first. Also, he went on a guys trip this weekend ... not sure if he’s cheating or what. However I need to move forward with life. Should I stay in the state we moved to or move back to the state near family. I really don’t want to go backwards, but I’m so hurt and confused right now....
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I went through this recently and we ended up working it out, but I started to get my child support papers ready,making sure I had that and a living situation available if needed. You have to look out for you and your babies. Hope it works out! Maybe just stay put till he comes back and see how it goes
Ne
Girl that’s where I am. Doing as much research as possible. Getting all my ducks in a row. And I’m glad things got better for you. Marriage can be a real doozy
What’s he a angry about? Hopefully you can have a mature calm sit down if next steps. Separation, divorce, or what the plan is.
As
And I’d go back to the state you came from closer to family. How he thinks he can just stop financially support, ugh. Totally more happened on boys weekend too. I’m so sorry you’re going through this
As
You are absolutely right! It’s up to him to be present in their lives.
Ne
He then got upset because I told him whatever relationship he has with them is his own fault and he can’t blame me for it
My brother use to argue with his girl for the smallest things just so he can go out with his boys and if something happened then the excuse was oh I was mad at you remember 😤 guys are idiots. Not saying your man is doing the same but always keep your eyes open trust me. Never trust 100% I'm going through some crazy stuff now with my husband after being together 17 yrs (high school sweethearts) he just told me 4 months ago that he cheated on me 15yrs ago while on deployment because he was mad at me.... 🤔he had a great time in Malta and Dubai with his boys while I was working and taking care of our baby all worried about him 😡
Fa
Thank you. And I wish you the very best
Ne
I’m going to be watching in the upcoming days to see if behavior just magically gets better
Ne
I agree with you 100% . I hear that often that men just need validation to their wrong doing. I hope that your situation gets better as well. That’s a long time to be together but a horrible thing to just spring on you.
You dont just wake up and say that. He has been thinking about this long time. Well you can't force someone to be with you so. Go back next to family. And remember that you were before you married him. So not been with him will sure be difficult for the dream you had concerning family and all that But not been with him. Doesnt diminish you. You ARE.
Ne
🙏🏾 Thank you! And that’s what I’m dealing with now. Trying to remember the former me. Before wife before kids so that I don’t feel tied to this and obligated to be together
Oh, he doesn’t just get to decide not to support you financially. He can be a punk and peace out on you, but legally-he’s got to provide financial support. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Ne
Exactly! Thank you! I don't know why men think there is a switch to relationships.. life just does not work that way.
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