I'll try to be objective when telling this story so I can get some honest feedback.

Last night my husband texted me at 5:30 and asked if I had started dinner yet. I had, so I called him. It sounded like he was at a party- he was at a bar. He said there is a going away party for so-and-so and do I want to come over to Maddie's (the bar). I told him not really. I had already started dinner, not knowing he wasn't going to eat with us again, I am sick, 8 months pregnant, and our 2 year old was happily playing with his toys. He said that's fine. The conversation ended because it was so loud and I was tired of talking over people. I was in tears when I hung up. He does this about once a week. Knowing I cook dinner for our family every night, he randomly, without warning, goes out for drinks without telling me and gets home late. He apologizes every time and promises that he will give me more of a heads up and let me know where he is. There have been times when I only know he's been out because I smell it on his breath.

I texted my friend who's husband was also there and he did the same thing to her. No warning, no apology for not being home for dinner or the kid's bedtime.

I texted my husband to see if he was going to eat or not and he said, "If you don't feel like eating don't cook." This pissed me off because I'm 8 months pregnant, I always need to eat dinner, and of course I'm going to cook for our son. I said, "The lack of warning is disrespectful, you know that I cook dinner for our family every night." And his response was, "I'll come home, I was just saying because you didn't feel like eating last night". Which isn't true, i didn't feel like cooking last night.

Anyway, it was at 6:15 that he said he was coming home, and didn't get home until 7:45. The bar is only 5 minutes away.

So, am I being jealous/annoying, or is this super disrespectful to do to your wife/mother of your children? We've been together 9 years, married 6.

When he got home I was too tired to argue so I didn't say anything to him and just went to bed after putting our son down. He tried to be nice and ask how I was feeling and see if I needed anything, but he never apologized. Today before I left for coffee with a friend (which has been planned and on our calendar for a month), he asked if he told me that he had to go work at this lady's house today. He didn't. He said he wouldn't go but I told him if he made a commitment to help someone that he should go. Probably won't see him for the rest of the day.