Yesterday was a normal day. I got off work and did some chores around the house. No big deal. That’s how things normally go. We have gotten found ourselves in a bit of a rut sexually. We have sex when I’m ovulating but other than that not really. We have talked about this and our needs. We talked about things we fantasize about and would like to try. So yesterday before my SO got home I slipped into some lingerie. I attempted to take some sexy pictures but I’ve recently gained some weight. I have been working hard to try to shed some of these pounds but I’m still not “feeling” sexy. So, I decided to just meet him at the door in lingerie. I was attempting to do a sexy pose and everything. Leading up to this I had everything roughly figured out how I thought it would go. I imagined that he would see me standing there and he would walk over to me and kiss me hard. You know, full of passion and romance. I thought he would run his hands through my hair and be overflowing with ecstasy and love....

Well, let me tell you that is not how things went down. He walked in his hands were full so he had to put everything where it was supposed to go. He then attempted to kiss me on the cheek. Almost like he didn’t want to he was so far away he actually had to redo it because he didn’t make it to my face. What he said about me wearing lingerie is, “you look nice.” SERIOUSLY?! Side note my stomach makes me uncomfortable, especially since I’ve gained weight. But he likes it so I got a piece of lingerie that showed my stomach. That’s it. That’s all that happened.

I talked to him later telling him my frustrations with how things went. He said that “when you wear lingerie it’s like you’re fishing for a compliment and I cannot give you a compliment when you do that.” I asked him what I could do for spontaneous sex because he prefers mornings but I have to leave for work at 4am. He doesn’t like nights because sex gets him hyped up then he can’t sleep. So my thought was afternoon sex. Apparently I was way the fuck off. I feel so rejected and definitely not sexy. I don’t know what to do.