Ideal work shift??

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So my husband potentially has an opportunity at work that will allow him to make quite a bit more money (18.5% salary increase). The downfall, he would switch from 1st shift to 2nd. His hours would be 3:00pm - midnight.
He has worked this shift before and it kind of sucked for our relationship! I literally ONLY saw him on weekends (I was always asleep when he got home)..
So now, we are 6.5 weeks pregnant, and thinking about going back to this shift for the money. The other plus side would be we wouldn’t have to have a babysitter for more than a few hours a day (prob from 2:30-5:30).
My biggest concern is that we will both feel like we are single parents during the week. I obviously have nothing against single parents! I’m just scared of the HARD HARD work that goes into it!! We will have weekends together, which will be even more special as a family... but I just don’t know how I feel about not seeing my husband for 5 days in a row with a baby!
What are your thoughts?!?

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That’s a huge increase and would provide for a better life, especially with the benefit of less childcare expenses. My husband and I will work complete opposite shifts when we have kids and will only have days off together when we take vacation.  Sacrifices have to be made when you start a family 🤷🏼‍♀️

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In general I would say no because my husband used to work an 11-8 shift and I worked 9-5 and I absolutely hated it, and that’s not nearly as drastic as 3-12.... however, I do think if you have a baby it’s actually a good idea to be on opposite shifts! It’ll suck to see him less but it’ll be better for your baby to spend more time with at least one parent!

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It’s hard but make time. Give him an hour of your time before your shift or after his. Me and boyfriend make time before and after work even if it’s crazy hours. It makes a diff and you can see the effort both try to make. It don’t have to be everyday but a few times a week. Having a late breakfast together, or late dinner, small talk, sex, a movie or show. But remember money isn’t everything but it sure does help

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My husband and I work opposite shifts but it has helped save tons in day care and the opportunity to not put them in day care. Maybe would just need s babysitter or family member for a couple hours over Lap here and there. You’re actually really lucky!!

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My husband is gone weeks at a time for work (railroad derailment crew). Its hard, but so worth it. Just be sure to make time together a priority when you're together. Also it's important to have a support network when you're stressed and just need a break. When my hubs is gone I try to schedule time with my MIL and also some alone time. Honestly the time apart makes our time together so much more meaningful. Our marriage is stronger now that we have time apart. Plus the extra cash has afforded me the opportunity of nursing school. Find ways to stay busy anf he will be home before you know it!

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Can you guys do breakfast together or something?

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I get it but by Husband I never have same work schedule I’m an operation manager in retail and he was a manager as well there was a time where our only day off together was once a month sometimes we had mornings or afternoon together but it was not often now he works for a train company as a conductor and his hours are horrible but it’s a lot more money he can make with OT and it will be better for us in the future my hours are very crazy as manager but we make it work.

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