I’m having a hard time ladies. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is going through some things. Recently in the beginning of September we had our first break up of one week. And honestly I can’t lie because I went back to him. I asked him to take me back after having a bad fight that led to our break up. When we came back together he told me he wasn’t sure of how much Time he could give me. He said that because he wanted to work out, get a new job, and eventually move out of his moms house again(when we had met he was living by himself). I told him I was okay with that and that I was willing to try to help as best I could. I truthfully want him to be happy! Even if it means not hanging out as much. Before our break up he was going through a lot of angry/sadness and well it’ll lead to him telling me I wasn’t doing enough for him and that I wasn’t being supportive and that all I thought was about myself. I constantly wanted to try to help him by doing resumes for him, suggesting he move out and move in with me, trying to help him meal prep healthy food so he also wouldn’t have to spend, motivating him to go to the gym, letting him know that he was still the most handsome guy in the world( he had gained weight and felt insecure). I’ve been trying to give him his space so he could focus on himself.

Today he came over To my job since he had gotten off early. As we were talking he mention that we weren’t going to be able to hang out tomorrow because he wanted to go out to a festival with his friends. I got upset because usually Saturdays are our days together. I only asked for Saturdays to hang out because that’s when we both have off and we can actually go out and do stuff. He said he didn’t want to and he doesn’t wanna have a commitment when it comes to hanging out. He said he wants to hang out with his two guy friends. I wouldn’t mind if he hadn’t seen them for a couple of days but he’s been seeing them almost every day for the past two weeks. I feel that I got myself back into a relationship where his word is the only one that matters and mine is just asking too much. He called me clingy and told me to get a life. Since our first break up I started hanging out with my friends more and when me and him got back together he always makes comments on how he thinks I’m cheating on him, or why am going out so late. I told him what did he expect me to do stay home? I’m literally trying to keep him happy and for us not to fight over stupid little things. It hurts me because this is my second love and I know it sounds stupid but I just can’t stand to go through another heartbreak. (of course doesn’t feel like the first one but still) If we wouldn’t have been dating for so long it wouldn’t affect me but because we have time together it brings me down. I honestly thought of planning my life with him, but now I feel a bit down because I feel that I’m the only one fighting.

My question for you ladies is how do you know if your man isnt really treating you good? As in is it too much to ask for some quality time? Am I being too much? How can I help him? Can I even help him? Please help, also please send some prayers to guide me.