Hi there,

Do I have the right to be sad here: My first was born extremely prematurely 19 months ago. We spent 9 months in a hospital in another state and we’re home now. My son has a trach and lives on a ventilator but one day will come off the machines. I have nursing in my home. I hate it but he’s here so I’m thrilled. My family threw me a friends-only (about 15) people shower 2 octobers ago, 6 months after my son was born. Other people gave gifts later on, and everyone has been super generous, except I feel like I really missed out on having a special shower day. I really want a big shower and get dressed up and take lots of pictures becAuse I couldn’t with my first. I am expecting my second now and my mom is like "oh well, not everything works out for everyone. Everybody has been super generous. Just forget about having a big shower." I'm still sad I never got to feel normal. I don’t even want presents. She thinks I am present-hungry. Why am I so upset by this? Is it the hormones haha? How can I make myself feel normal? Every party for me including my bridal shower has been my family going "what do you want? just tell us and we'll do it." Noone ever seems like they want to do something for me. They're just forced. Oh well. I know life goes on.


What do you think we should do in this situation? TIA