Need advice

Hi ladies. Just wanting some advice. My husband is into rough sex and although i find it really hot its way too intense for me. Any suggestions on how i can enjoy it too? We tried it before like tie me up, handcuffs and toys but im a bit fusy and he stops straightaway cause he doesnt want to hurt me. I like it when he spanks me and pulls my hair back (but he doesnt do it often) and the other day he choked me a bit soo hot. I would love to hear your suggestions and opinions.