My daughters birthday is coming up and my father in law was asking me what she would like (they don’t live anywhere close so he wants to send a gift).

I gave him a list of things she likes, pretty straight forward. Also, she’s turning 3 so I thought it’d make sense why I told him the things she’d like. Oh and you know because she’s my daughter, I think I’d know what she likes too.

Anywho, he messaged back and asked if she’d like any collectible dolls... to give her when she’s married so she can pass them down to her kids...??????? That threw me off guard.

Maybe it’s just me but there is absolutely no need to get a 3 year old collectible dolls. She’s going to want to play with them and she’s not quite yet old enough to understand the whole collection reasoning. So I politely said I don’t think that’s a good idea because... she’s 3.

Well no reply from him after that but then his wife (technically my husbands step mom) messages my mom to ask HER what my daughter would like for her birthday!

This has happened countless times where family members will message my mom instead of me, the parent, what to get my daughter. My mom thinks it’s strange as well and always follows up with that they should be asking me lol.

I’m not sure if people just think because I’m a younger mom that I’m incompetent or what??? I’m quite the opposite! I was 24 when I had her, so yes younger but now 27, I’m also that mom who never goes out and spends literally all my free time off work with her. It just baffles me and is honestly so rude