Seconds away from a break down

My husband and I can’t get along at all we are a week away from celebrating our first year marriage anniversary and all we do is argue. He wants sex but doesn’t understand my trauma. I was raped at 15 and sex has always been very scary for me, we have been together 5 years now and I feel like he doesn’t want to understand he just wants me to get over this trauma so he can have a normal sex life...Yesterday he told me I don’t understand how hard it is for him to be my husband... what do I do?