Is God trying to tell me something?

What does it mean when your friends with benefits always pops up when you’re about to get into a relationship? Iv been trying to get with him for a while but he always claims he rides solo and the last girl he was with a couple years ago broke his heart and he just isn’t ready for a relationship. We’ve known each other for 2 years and he’s always my go to. We don’t talk to each other on a daily basis either. Could there be a reason why he keeps popping up unexpectedly like he does? Or am I overthinking this whole situation? They say people come into your life for a reason and idk why this keeps happening to me. Iv been like in love with this guy since we’ve first hung out. I care so much about him. He knows what my intentions are I just don’t understand. What do y’all think?