Am i wrong? Long but please read :/

Ok so this situation is kinda long and complicated.

I just ended my relationship with my child’s father, I’m having our child in 23 days.

I also told him to not contact me and that our son will be fine with just me and me alone.

Backstory: my ex has 3 different children with 3 different women (no judgement there) plus our child on the way. For years he didn’t have contact with his children. Until yesterday when his ex wife brought his son to see him. (I want him to see his kids) but he told me he still loves his ex wife and he isn’t sure if he’s in love with me anymore and doesn’t know what he wants. (all good and well, that’s ok if he is, and that’s not why I chose to tell him I don’t want him in our child’s life)

He is a narcissist to the max.

1) He told me he doesn’t want anyone to know that he is the father of our child.

2) he has not shown any interest in our child at all since I’ve been pregnant.

3) he has not bought one thing for our child. Yet he will go paintballing every weekend and get tattoos every other weekend.

4) he keeps telling me to move out of state and in with my family so I have support, instead of manning up and helping me support our child.

5) he treats me like absolute garbage, calls me fat, emotionally abuses me and constantly stresses me out (how can you do that to your child’s mother especially when we were still together?)

6) he specifically said “if we break up don’t go on Facebook and talk shit on me or talk shit on me to my friends” (which I would never do because i don’t like to air my dirty laundry out there especially since I am having a child with someone who has been inconsistent for years)

7) the primary fact that he has been inconsistent with all of his children, constantly in and out of their lives

As bad as I feel for telling him that I don’t want him to be apart of our child’s life, I feel like I need to protect our son at all costs.

Am I wrong?

Edit: I am open to him being there in the future for our son. I’m not upset about the breakup at all but I am upset with his inconsistency in my pregnancy and his other kids lives. My family was throwing us a baby shower and when I told asked him if he was goin he said “rather not” (we were still together at this point)