Please someone read this and maybe have some advice

Not to make this long but maybe someone can help me out but I have been dealing with a INTENSE dryness ,itchyness and now legit cracking in the folds of the vulva area and painful urination in my lady parts . I have seen my doctor my labs for STDS,UTI and yeast came back completely normal I was worried it was herpes but I DIDDNT have any sores and still haven’t had any open sores down there and she told me I was fine that the cracks will heal on its own blah blah I literally feel like screaming it’s been over two months now and I can’t even have sex . My boyfriend is super understanding I just had a ovary cyst rupture in March and had internal bleeding and he’s been through all the hospital stays and everything but he’s now frustrated cause it is just so uncomfortable for me to have sex I’m EXTREMELY dry so naturally I don’t want anything to do with the dick because my libido is down because it hurts so bad but I’m so embarrassed I won’t even tell him what I’m going through. Has anyone had this happen to them should I be asking specifically to be checked for something I’m really really drained and I can’t take it anymore . And my periods are wierd I had two the start of September and the end of September idk wtf to do .