Every month?!?

Ever since I can honestly remember I’ve had atleast one UTI or kidney infection every month. I hate going to the doctor every month and dealing with it. I always do what I am supposed to like pee after sex, don’t drink pop, wipe front to back etc. but here I am sitting in a fetal position hoping the back pain and burning goes away. Now, I’m unable to go to a doctor as I’m helping my grand mother 24/7 due to her health so I have no job or license, there is no lyft or Uber out here either as I’m in the middle of BFE. I’ve lost my health insurance due to this whole mess. But that’s not even my problem here I just know there is another woman out here who has the same problems as me and I just want to know what am I doing wrong? Or what’s wrong with my body that I have to go through this pain every month??

Also**** forgot to add but when I use the restroom I wipe and stand up and walk out I feel more leak out. This is always done this as well.