I’ve been looking forward to seeing Lizzo since April 23, when I purchased the only VIP tickets in my life. May 12, I found out I was pregnant. Well, six months later, Lizzo is playing next Friday. I’ve been looking forward to this so much... my last hurrah, thinking it’ll help me feel empowered and excited. I don’t have many friends here so it’s one of my only social outings this entire year. Was planning to go with my cousin.

My husband has been nervous about the sound being too loud for the baby because it’s a very bass-heavy music and that people in our town often smoke/vape (both cigarettes and weed).

I’ve asked multiple doctors and all have said it will be fine (both from a sound and secondhand smoke perspective) as long as I’m aware of my surroundings and avoid being jostled or bumped. I’m in a seated area with just a couple more people near me.

Hubby is incredibly upset that I’m still going and says that if I do he’ll be stressed until the baby’s born and if anything is wrong with the baby, he’ll always wonder if it was the concert and may need to divorce me. (He said this in anger and I doubt he means it but still.)

I guess I’m deciding the stress isn’t worth it for him and it’s true that a concert can sometimes be a risky situation ... it’s very unpredictable. So I’ll probably skip it. But I feel so sad about it. Lizzo means a lot to me and I feel like this is the last time I’ll be able to do something like this for years. I cried a lot this morning.

What would you do?