Ear piercings

Before I start, this is not a mom shame to the moms who have gotten their daughters ears pierced. I’m not judging anyone who has. I have stated I’m not getting my daughter’s ears pierced until she’s old enough to tell me when she wants them pierced because I just don’t see why I should do that and put her through that pain right now when she can’t speak yet. My MIL was talking and was like “I’m going to plan a day and take her out and get her ears pierced soon” she knows I don’t want to do that🙄 so I reminded her and said “actually I’m waiting to do that until she’s older and can tell me whether she wants to or not, I don’t find it necessary to do so” and she got mad. It’s my daughter, I don’t know why she always thinks that she can take it upon herself to do things with my daughter and not ask me first. I just don’t find it necessary to pierce my daughters ears. And she doesn’t even ask and just thinks she can make choices for my daughter and do whatever she wants. Just like yesterday she was about to put my daughter in her car seat and take her with her and I was like um excuse you? She was just gonna take my daughter without asking. I wish I had in-laws that I could stand being around. I’m jealous of those of you that don’t have overbearing and difficult in-laws! It’s a constant battle for me😣