Husband VS Baby RANT

Sorry it's so long.....

Does anyone else's husband just do absolute horribly when left alone with baby? Honestly getting concerned for my son's safety when alone with his dad.....

I asked him to watch him (fell asleep on living room on his play mat and I was NOT about to wake him up by moving him) so that I could get some actual sleep. Hubs was OK with it and said he would come and get me when baby woke up. I was expecting to be woken up an hour later but actually got a full 3 hours😁😄! Buuuttttttttt.... Woke up to baby and hubs screaming bloody murder at each other. No matter why or when baby cries, hubs just cannot handle it and starts getting frustrated. Cue me, frantic mom, telling him to chill and trying to take baby before he accidentally shakes him or something.😳 Shaken baby is no joke and honestly one of my worst fears

Hubs gets extremely upset and offended everytime I've tried to talk to him about it and will practically throw baby at me and stomp off to bed/couch/wherever he happened to be sitting before baby started crying. I completely understand that he is frustrated- his baby is crying and he doesn't know how to soothe him- but he needs to have patience. A 3-week old's only form of communication is screaming and telling him to shut-up the second he starts to cry is not going to do anything.

Worried that baby is going to sense how much hubs doesn't like taking care of him and it's going to effect his emotional state permanently. 😟Plus, Everytime baby starts crying hubs first attempt to quiet him is to shove a pacifier in his mouth and if he spits it out then clearly-he-just-wasn't-holding on+to-it-so-shove-it-in-further-until-it-makes-him-stop-crying-because-he-cant-friggin-breath 😣 And don't even get me started on my hubs sailer mouth. If this kids first word isn't a cus word it'll be a miracle. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Tl;Dr

Hubs seems to hate baby as soon as crying starts. nervous for LO safety when alone with dad. Ranting.