Unassisted or...?

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Alright. I’m only 4 weeks pregnant but my delivery method is already HEAVVYYY on my mind. So I’ve come to this conclusion (that will probably switch up) that I want my birth as natural and unassisted as physically possible with the use of hypnosis and other tolerant techniques . And like yeah it’s gonna hurt YADDA YADDA I get it. I do. 
But then I was looking at pros and cons of epidurals and assisted birth and it’s kinda sounded less... traumatic for lack of a better term? 
But I don’t wanna “feel little to nothing” but the anxiety of feeling myself tear or just the ring of fire in general is kinda scary. I wanna be super aware during my birth not drugged up. 
Idk to each their own. What are y’all a experiences with assisted and unassisted births ????

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I've never had children but everyone I know has had the epidural and liked it. I for one will not stand for needle in my lower back and the side effects are a no go for me cause knowing my body, I will have side effects.

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My mom had me on the couch at home,  ambulance showed up right before I was born. Contractions were 3 minutes apart and she tore a little. We lived less than a mile from the hospital. She was waiting for her contractions to get closer since she was in the hospital a long time when she had my brother. I hope you decide what you feel is best for you and baby. Unless you have to dont let anyone talk you out of your birth plan. Congratulations!

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If you want an unassisted birth or something more natural, do not look at information and articles from mainstream websites or the popular and usual baby/pregnancy/parenting sites. Look for resources that promote natural birthing. I have found that they are so much more empowering. I used to be scared of tearing and the ring of fire, until I surrounded myself with information, and opinions that painted birth as it is, a natural process. Our body’s intuitively know what to do. But unfortunately our society has changed the way we view birth, they tell us it’s scary and dangerous, and we need as much help and intervention. They tell us our body is incapable of birthing a baby. None of those opinions are true. Our body was designed to conceive, and grow a life without help. It’s also designed to birth a baby without help. You have to get over your fear and learn to trust your body. Read and empower yourself. Good luck

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Go on facebook and search unassisted births. Theres a page called assisted and unassisted births. Its a fantastic group with hundreds of people with experience to get more info. I highly recommend that site

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To elaborate on my unassisted birth opinion: I think it’s really trendy on social media right now especially in certain circles that wanna give each other credit for being independent and all natural and all of that. For most of human history we have given birth with the support of other women who have birth education though. When you give birth with no pain medicine your mind goes into a trance in order to make it through labor. Personally, I felt like I was on mushrooms and I have had plenty of unmedicated doula clients who behave similarly. Do you trust yourself to make life or death decisions for you and your baby in a split second while on mushrooms? It’s just not realistically safe. On the other hand, having to be present enough to make life or death decisions could hold your mind back from letting you release into that psychedelic “laborland” mindset so maybe you’d experience labor differently because you have to be sharp and aware. Which sounds excessively stressful to me. Birth is natural as can be, and so is death. They are two sides of the same coin. I feel like birthing unassisted ignores that reality and sends people the incorrect message that “birth is always healthy and manageable and safe” when the truth it is OFTEN is that, but when it goes sideways, that coin can flip, and you both have the best chances when supported by loving, experienced caregivers.

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I had a natural water birth and it was amazing. I labored at home for awhile then I went to a birth center. My water broke at 2AM and I had him at 9AM.

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Had my son in hospital without any pain relief. I built it up so much in my head that it was going to horrific pain, it actually wasn’t as bad as I imagined. Good luck whatever you decide.

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Both of my babies born in hospital no epidural but yes some IV pain relief. There are other options than epidural or nothing at all.  Some hospitals also offer nitrous now as well so you control how much you want and when by using a face mask and breathing it in.

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My labor was unmedicated, though not by choice at the time and my birth plan was completely blown out of the water. I had an unusual labor as a FTM as it only lasted a little over two hours from start to my son being put on my chest. It was a great experience, but I also didn't tear and only pushed 7 times before he was out. It didn't hurt as much as I though it would and the ring of fire only lasted a few seconds at most. Again, I didn't tear so I'm not sure how different that would be if I did tear. I can tell you that the recovery time was so short. I was back on my feet within an hour and a half, out of the hospital the next evening, and fully recovered by week three. Overall, even if my labor lasted a little longer with the next one I can definitely say I would try it unmedicated again. 
Maybe go in with a more fluid birth plan. You can always change your mind, if feasibly possible, once the time comes. You can also look into different pain management meds your hospital or birth center offers. Mine offered the gas as well as intravenous pain meds and the epidural.

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Good for you girl! Here is my story: i wanted pretty close to natural. I wanted a hospital birth, but was hoping to not get rhe epidural. Honestly, that scared me more than birth. Pretty much everyone knew i did not willingly want an epidural. Fast forward to labor. I went into labor on my own and at the hospital in triage, i started having an anxiety attack. The nurses were starting to be concerned and gently encouraged the epidural. I agreed. I got mine done when i was at a 4. My contractions hurt, but they were manageable at the time. I was just freaked out about becoming a mom in a few hours. So after getting the epidural, i slept my entire labor. Everything went very smoothly. I progressed on my own and my water broke on its own. It was a very relaxing experience. However, i believe my recovery and my continued pain is connected to the fact that I had the epidural. I'm 15 months pp and still have pretty bad back pain. If I have another kid I will feel more confident during labor and hopefully I can fight the anxiety and do natural next time. Congrats girl and best wishes!

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