Excuse my language . Lol but ok I have a serious question and I don’t know how to go about it .

I recently found out my baby father who which we live together chewing tobacco. Mind y’all he stop smoking cigarettes a few months after my first baby was born and was doing fine without it . I think it was more like because everyone in his family does it so does he ... and like I said recently I’ve seen he does that ( chewing tobacco ) & I hate it! It’s gross and I feel like because he doesn’t even try to keep up with his hygiene etc like making dentist appointment or whatever it’s even more gross and we have been arguing over it yea sounds stupid but theirs more to the story just wanna keep it as brief as possible! Anywho it’s making me unattractive to my man like wtf I don’t wanna do shit for him .. even kiss him bc of that am I doing to much or idk I need advice .

Thanks in advance ladies 💗