Ok,

Im 16. I have a boyfriend who is 17.

Weve been together for 3 months.

We havent had sex, he wants to but im not ready. I would actually like to wait until I’m older. Maybe 18?

He sometimes asks for sex but our relationship isnt based on that because he accepts it when i say no and says he will wait until im ready.

Leavers is coming up. This is where theres festivals and parties for the graduated year 12’s.

People usually go on breaks with their boyfriends and girlfriends as it is a once in a lifetime thing. he wants that freedom. i dont want to take that away from him. So i agreed he could have that freedom but no sex because i want to be eachothers first.

I asked him if he would want to and he said “i dont know” i asked him what he meant and he said he wants to have sex and if girls came onto him he would regret not doing it.

As the conversation went on he kept just saying how important sex is to guys.

I told him that if he waits i can give him that.

But he then said “if you dont give me sex in a year im going to leave you” and it shocked me because i thought we could be in a relationship thats not based on sex. I really didnt think not being ready would be a deal breaker.

I dont know how to feel. Just need some advice.