I really don't know what to do, or how to feel.

They knew each other before I met my husband. They're total opposites. She loves to party and he loves nights in.

We have 2 children and I'm also 23 weeks pregnant with our third

I don't know what to do.

I saw the messages on his phone and now my head and heart really hurts

Sorry I think I've managed to stop crying long enough to explain

I met him 6 years ago through my sister as they worked together and she thought we'd make the perfect couple 😭

I fell madly in love with him straight away. I adored the ground he walked on. He treated me so well. Would help with housework and when the kids were born he was amazing with them too.

Nothing has changed between us, that's what I'm so confused about.

We're still intimate he's not been distant just had to do more overtime at work but his pay check is correct with the amount of overtime he's doing.

But last night he left his phone on the side whilst he was in the shower and it rang so I looked at it and it was my sister which I thought was odd. If she needed me she normally calls me.

I went through his messages and she was telling him how good he was in bed and how she's falling for him and he told her he's always loved her.

My life is a lie. I don't know what to do right now. I don't work because he wanted me to stay home and raise the children. I can't go to my parents because she still lives at home 🙄😭😭

UPDATE

thought I'd let you know what happened. I'm feeling much better today. I actually went to my best friends house right after writing this post.

She said me and the kids could stay there for the night in the spare bedroom. So we did. I didn't let him know where we were I just left him a note at home telling him I saw the messages between him and Naomi and I needed time to think.

Him and naomi blew my phone up all night so I ended up turning it off until now. He even tried ringing my best friend and her husband answered and told him he didn't deserve me ❤

After a long night thinking about it and being calm around my children I have decided I'm going to have a talk with my parents about it today. I don't want to talk to either of them yet

UPDATE

He didn't go to work today. My best friend just rang me to say he'd gone over there demanding them to let him see me 🙄 currently at my parents house. Kids are in school. And sister is at work. I told my mum what had happened and she started crying with me. She didn't know what to say apart from hug me. She's obviously devastated as well. As for my sister. I can't believe she'd do this to me, we were best friends.

I'm obviously going to divorce my husband. No point being married to someone who doesn't love me. I deserve to be loved. I still don't want to talk to them though

UPDATE

I spoke with my sister

She apologised and told me they've slept together twice and been talking inappropriately for 3 weeks. I slapped her which wasn't my finest moment.

She told me she was in love with him and she wish she realised before introducing us. I'm devastated. I told her they were welcome to each other and I left. Gave my mum a hug and went back to my home with my children

When I got there he was no where to be seen thank God!! I dead bolted the doors so he can't get it. I'll be packing his stuff up in the morning. I'm not letting him in

UPDATE

Its been three days since I found out and these three days have been the worse.we have 5 year old twins a girl and boy and they've been keeping me going. They haven't asked where their dad is or anything. My daughter got into bed with me last night and told me she loved me which is what I needed.

I spoke to him today, he came to collect his things. I calmly asked for the house keys back but he refused until I let him in to explain. In my eyes there's nothing to explain?

Anyway he told me he's made the biggest mistake of his life. It's me he loves and he's so sorry he's hurt me. I didn't cry I was just staring at him the whole time blank faced. He asked me to forgive him, I told him Naomi told me she loved you. He told me he didn't love her he loved me. How can someone love you if they're cheating on you?? Bullshit.

Anyway I asked to look at his phone 🤷‍♀️ he handed it to me and the last message to my sister was exactly 10 minutes before he came home to get his things 🤦‍♀️ he was telling her he didn't love her he loved me and wanted to be with me and his children. She asked why he told her he loved her 😭 he never text back.

So, I sent a text to my sister off his phone and said 'D doesn't want me so I'm all yours now' gave him his phone back and walked away from him. He was on his knees begging me to forgive him whilst crying. It was actually really nice to see he was fighting for me. But it feels weird, like I looked at him and didn't feel anything. No love no hate nothing. I know I can get through this. My daughter needs me to be stress free right now and my other 2 children need their mum.

I won't have him in the delivery room. I'm planning on divorcing him asap. Hope he has a good life! 🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

UPDATE-

So it's been nearly 2 weeks since I found the messages and kicked my soon to be ex husband out of the house. It's been difficult I'm not going to lie. Having 2 kids and being pregnant and being on my own is hard work. I find myself getting lonely in the evenings mainly.

He's still trying and being persistent but I'm not giving in. My mother rang me the other day and told me she sat down with my sister to talk to her and see why she would do such a thing. Basically my sister told my mother that she first realised she was in love with my husband on our wedding day 🙄 she was jealous he was marrying me. She also told my mother it was her chasing after him and he kept turning her down until he eventually said yes. Such a shame. I never knew this, I don't understand why he never told me she was chasing after him.

My mother also asked me if I could ever forgive him, I said no. I think she's asking because she can see how much I'm struggling. I'm glad she's not pushing me to speak to my sister. She's absolutely devastated about it.

She actually told me a story about my dad, apparently my dad had an emotional affair with a work college when my mom was pregnant with me and she forgave him, and she's glad she did because they are the happiest they've ever been. I'm still devasted obviously.

My husband was everything to me but the thought of him having sex with someone else hurts me but to know it was with my sister absolutely kills me.

He's still trying his hardest with me. Sends me flowers, turns up at my house with dinner. When he picks the kids up I always make sure I'm made up with make up and nice clothes he always said I looked good in 😂 I'm 25 weeks pregnant but I'm still a size 10. I'm not doing it to win him back, I'm doing it to make myself feel better! I feel rejected right now. It feels like my heart has been pulled out of my chest and crushed and he's the one that's caused this pain. So I'm looking hot for my benefit.

So this morning, he text me 😂😂😂😂

As you can see, hes an idiot 🤣🤣

THERES A PART 2. WITH THE SAME TITLE.