Orgasm hindrance due to autism ?

Question

Hi. I’ve recently learned that I have autism and I was just curious if any other women might know if it might be the reason I can’t orgasm through intercourse. I can orgasm if I do it myself but that it. I know it’s not my husbands fault at all. He’s absolutely magical lol. I know the issue lies with me but I never thought about the correlation that it might be to my own brain. For real though I’m trying very hard to learn and understand my diagnosis and how it affects my life. Just curious if it might have to do with anything.

Answer

I don't have 1st hand experience with this, but to my knowledge, autism can throw a monkey wrench into just about any daily task. Since you're able to orgasm on your own, I would imagine that it could be a controlled environment type of situation. You're able to do things exactly right and it can be distracting and a turn off if things don't go exactly right with intercourse. Actually, now that I think of it, its probably more of a normal female thing, not necessarily an autism thing.

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Since you masturbate, you likely already know the answer without even realizing it. You have two organs down there. One for reproduction and one for pleasure. Since they are so close together, they get confused, and besides, sex-ed sucks big time.

Your vagina is for reproduction. It is your birth canal, and a safe place for your partner to ejaculate his sperm to get you pregnant. It is also an outlet for your menstrual flow. To protect you from trauma caused by pain, your vagina is largely without nerve endings, leaving it mostly with very little feeling. If it was very sensitive inside, child birth, menstruation, inserting tampons, infections and sex would be intolerable. Unfortunately sex with a male partner is mostly concentrated around your vagina with his penis pumping in and out of it.

Your clitoris is actually your primary pleasure organ. It is the equivalent of the male penis, except that you do not ejaculate, and you do not pee through it. It is a massive organ, going almost 15 cm inside your body. It forms 2 wishbone structures, the 2 fat bulbs that are going under your lips towards your vaginal entrance, and two thin long legs that goes deeper in your body. Just that little tip that you can see and feel (the glans) has more than 8,000 nerve endings, making it the most sensitive organ anywhere on a human body. In other words, it is made for stimulation, leading to orgasms. That is quite literally its only job – pleasure leading to orgasms.

During normal sex, most women do not get enough stimulation to their clitoris to orgasm. Only about 20% to 30% can orgasm from just intercourse. Research has shown that it is because their clitoris is close enough to their vaginal openings that the thrusting of the penis stimulate their clitoris. The rest of us need extra clitoral stimulation to orgasm during sex. There are a number of ways to achieve this, and it may feel unnatural in the beginning, but it will become second nature pretty quickly and it holds the keys to a great sex life.

During sex, you need to stimulate your clitoris. You can do it with your fingers, his fingers, a small clitoral vibrator, a couples vibrator or by changing how you move during sex. Giving your clitoris extra stimulation by rubbing or vibration is easier done with you on top, or him behind you. And it is pretty much just masturbating while he is inside you.

Changing the way you move can also give you great orgasms. With him fully inside you, tilt your pelvis so that your clitoris makes contact with his body. The rub, squeeze and grind in small movements on him.. There is no rule that states that sex must be the in/out up/down that does so little for you. When you get more adept with this, you can even end the in stroke with a sweep of your clitoris on his body, giving you back this typical in/out motion. This is also much easier done with you on top where you can control the movements. There is even a sex position that achieves this very efficiently called the coital alignment technique (or C.A.T.). You can google it.

Orgasm hindrance due to autism ?

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