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Hiya all I'm currently 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 3 let's just say birth control don't work on me got pregnant while on it 🙈😂 so my two little ones are due to stay with my mum when I go into labour but my mum works full time and her shifts change more then I turn on my lights 😂 I had 2 natural births but this time I want a c section so I know what date and time baby gunna be here so mum can book it off I'm from the uk and British mumma do this I'm going to speak to my community midwife about it wonder if any one ask for this and got it

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You can absolutely request it but honey do you realize how much help you are going to need after a C-section? Especially if your family are working odd hours. You honestly can't even take care of yourself, never mind 3 children, after a C-section. 
My first was an emergency C-section and my husband ended up having to take a lot of time off work to help me. I couldn't stand straight for weeks with the pain, couldn't lift, couldn't stand to cook etc. You won't be able to lift anything heavier than baby for weeks. So your older kids will not be able to be lifted or carried, you won't even be able to lift the carseat. 
If your only reason for this is to know which day baby will be born then honestly I'd caution you against it. This is major surgery with increased risks for both you and baby and weeks of difficult recovery afterwards. And on the NHS elective c-section get pushed back frequently to make space for emergency ones. So although you will be given a star there is no way to know for sure if it will actually be the date until you are in theater. 
If you do go through with it you will need to make sure you have people around to help. Get them to book time off work because honestly you are going to need someone there all the time for several weeka with 3 kids after this kind of surgery. 
My vaginal birth recovery was a walk in the park compared to my c-section. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone if they can avoid it.

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I would be shocked if they did this based on why you want it, What a waste of nhs money and c section is a major surgery, wouldn’t they only do c section due to a valid health reason?

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I was told in the UK you have a right to ask for a c section. They don’t encourage it but they have to say yes if you insist although they’ll try to talk you out of it as it’s not the best thing for either of you medically.

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You have every right to ask but I'm pretty sure you will have to go in front of a board of people and get them to agree. I had an emergency csection in August & honestly do not want another one, the pain after and not being able to do alot on your own after is horrible. I couldn't imagine trying to look after 2 other kids, a newborn and not do damage to the csection/healing 🙈 If I was you I would stick to a natural, I dream of what it would be like to give birth naturally!

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Also, as others have said, whilst it's your right to request, your midwife and then consultant has to agree and they can decide to decline. So it's not gaurenteed, for obvisous reasons

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I very much doubt you'd be approved for a c section based on those reasons. Maybe a scheduled induction?

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You can request it. They will always put people with health problems or that have had problems with deliverys before, before you. So even if you get a date it may well change at the last minute. You are not guaranteed to have the c section until you are on the surgery table! You may have to fight it to get it. I had a c section and although it was lovely to get a date i knew baby would be out, The next day the pain was unbelievable. How are you going to cope and look after another 2 kids aswell? Do you have any help? I could barely walk the first week. Sitting up, moving or getting in and out of bed was the most painful thing ever afterwards. Even coughing. God forbid if you cough or sneeze. I luckily had my fiance around to look after my 5yo because otherwise getting him to school for that whole week after I wouldn't have managed. At least if you have a natural you will be able to freely move around afterwards, without being in horrendous pain.

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