What do I do if he ignores the “safe word”?

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My boyfriend and I like to have rough sex but some times it starts to hurt, so I decided that we should have a safe word. We are both WELL AWARE of what the word is, and yet.. my boyfriend ignores it. I keep telling him it’s in place for a reason but he always says it feels too good or “you say it when I’m about to cum” 🤦🏾‍♀️ it’s annoying

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You’re a human being and you being hurt is more important than him feeling good or having an orgasm. If he wants to ignore safe words to think only about himself he should fuck a pocket pussy, not a human. I wouldn’t be able to trust this man.

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Umm, as soon as you have said no, he knows it and keeps going for his own enjoyment regardless of your wishes...pretty sure that starts to cross into rape territory

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Stop having sex with him until he agrees to respect it 100% 🤷🏻‍♀️ giving an agreed upon safeword means you are not consenting to what he does after that, which is sexual assault, and he needs to take that seriously or you need to kick him to the curb

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I hope you know that is rape.

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You break up with him. Safewords are like saying 'no': you are removing your concent. Anything he does after that is rape.

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Backhand him

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Break up with him. If he continues after you withdraw consent, that's rape. He's fine with causing you pain just so he can get off.

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My boyfriend would never do anything intentionally to hurt me no matter how good it feels for him. He is well aware that something that is okay another time might not be okay this time and bice versa and stops whatever hes doing at the slightest hesitation from me because he wants it to be just as fun for me as it is for him. If your guy isnt listening to a safe word, its sexual assault. You're a human not a sex toy.

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Break up with him. Don’t stay with a rapist

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Physically push him off.