So I’m in a VERY controlling relationship. He won’t let me get a job because he claims he can’t trust me. Mind you, I’ve never done anything even slightly unloyal. He literally made sure I have no male friends or anyway to contact anyone anyways so I really don’t get where he’s coming from there. He says it’s because of how I acted when I was.. wait for it... SINGLE. Because I missed out on celebrating my 21 birthday because of a previous emotionally abusive relationship. Oh which by the way, he keeps spreading rumors to my family and everyone that my ex physically abused me. Which he didn’t, and I never once said he did. I said the truth, which was that it was mental abuse. But he gets off on telling people those things for some reason. My dad and step mom think he’s the best because they have only seen the protective, caring side of him. The side of him that pays for everything I want and need and tells me I’m ungrateful when I get upset and tell him the way he treats me makes me hate myself. He calls me names everyday on the phone because he makes me talk to him on the phone while he’s at work allll day long. His work days are on average 12+ hours. There’s so much more but I’m so limited on time because when he gets home he always gets to go through my phone. But I get shit when I ask him anything about. Oh who messaged you when his phone goes off. I’m just stuck and I guess I need advice more than anything. We’re renting a room at my sisters house that he pays rent for so he threatens me all the time. He says he’s taking everything because all the furniture in the room is practically his. But I’m afraid he’ll take my cat, she’s my baby and the only thing I feel like I’m living for now. But he’s not nice to her. I just need help. Please.