Court Threat? Update | #2 Update

Update #2: Here’s the backstory of the beef between his family and mine. Our families are very different. My boyfriends family is very fortunate whereas my family struggles. They are able to have brand new 2019 vehicles with the highest packages, multiple mortgages with acres of land, outstanding credit, boats RV’s and tractors. Where my mom lives barely paycheck to paycheck, in a rundown overpriced rental home, unreliable vehicle, and poor credit due to medical bills and past marriages. My mom resents them because of their money and how fortunate they are and she claims they take it for granted.

As soon as we found out we were pregnant, we moved 6 hrs to one of the homes that his parents are mortgaging in an area where we were able to get excellent paying jobs. If we stayed close to my mom, just because it’s convenient for her to see her grandchild, we’d be living paycheck to paycheck just as her, working 2 jobs each, and probably living in a rundown overpriced apartment. She claims I’m selfish because I uprooted her grandchild 6 hrs away from her just so we could live more “privileged”.

She believes his family took me and her grandchild from her and now she resents them even more. We’re grateful that his parents are helping us by lending us their home while we save for our own. But ultimately we made the decision to move to an area we’re not particularly happy with, just so we could save money to eventually buy a home in a area that does make us happy and give a better life financially to our daughter. My boyfriend has also made the decision to go into the fire rescue industry as well and was able to get with the county as a volunteer and they are paying for his schooling. That’s an expense we fortunately don’t have to worry about and we know that once he completes his schooling he’ll have an even better paying job. Moving 6 hrs away has given our little family so many benefits and opportunities. It sucks that I’m not near my mom to share this experience with her but ultimately my family comes first and if I had to make the decision of moving again I would.

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Update: I’ve noticed a lot of comments state that grandparents rights depend on the state. I’m located in Florida. I’m aware that a court order cannot be permitted for her to be in the room during birth as it is solely up to me, I guess I should rephrase that I’m worried she’ll try to fight for custody/visitational rights. If she wins, that means we’ll have to fork out tons of money that we don’t have for gas because a judge said so. We’d be wasting the money we moved 6 hrs away for to help financially take care of her for gas because of a court order to see her grandmother.

Also I’ve read that I’m the one being selfish for not allowing her to host my baby shower. I let her get what she wanted and that was to throw a baby shower but in turn she decides to cancel it and throw a fit because I couldn’t leave this morning. Also, like I stated before, we live 6 hrs away. My boyfriend works days during the week. I work nights and on the weekends. It’s not like we have the money or the time to drop on gas. That’s why I stated “I bent over backwards to make this weekend work” in the texts because we had to find time to take off and make sure it didn’t conflict with our bills just so she could throw the shower and then she ends up canceling it. Am I really selfish for not letting her throw it?

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Can my mom really threaten to take me to court to see my child? Will she win?

Backstory;

My boyfriend and I had to move 6 hrs away from my family to better financially support our soon to be daughter. Needless to say she hasn’t taken it very well. We’ll always get into arguments, block each other, and sometimes go weeks without talking. But today takes it to a whole new level.

My mother wanted to throw a baby shower. We were willing to drop $150 in our own gas money and drive 6 hrs there and back just for the weekend so she can throw it. We were supposed to leave this morning but my boyfriend unexpectedly got called into work and he couldn’t exactly say no or he’d get fired. No biggie to us tho, we simply could’ve just left after he got off. But needless to say, my mother didn’t take that well either and she called off the baby shower.

She claims a weekend isn’t enough time for her. I agree, but it’s all we have because we have to go back to work on Monday. So I thought a weekend would be better than nothing. But because we couldn’t be on the road this morning she decided to cancel the whole weekend and continues to claim I took this experience away from her. So I said fine, cancel it. I wasn’t about to drive 6 hrs and waste gas money to just be arguing the whole weekend. Well things escalated quickly and eventually I told her I didn’t want her to be apart of the birth anymore. Now she’s threatening to take me to court so she can be apart of the birth and my daughters life.

Can she actually do this? Will she win?

Here’s screenshots of part of our conversation.