**update**

He is happily propped up at a pub room enjoying his silence, not doing a thing for the kids, depressed kidfree. Told me yesterday he can't afford to stay to long there, offered him home he said I don't want you to get the wrong idea. Let him visit kids them complains he spent 4 hours one day 5hours the next. 😲

Where to start ?

My husband wants to separate,

He is depressed because he is always around me who is also depressed.

Told me that even though he loves me he feels pity for me because I have "no one" and he basically can't stand me.

Trying to keep "normal" for the kids but wondering why I've never been enough.

Not looking for pity, just don't want to talk to friends and family and spill the beans about what going through.

What am I supposed to do next?