My realtionship sucks :(

I dont feel like sparks are there anymore we been togther since 18 we are both the same age 22 about to be 23 and it's always work and kids we never get us time he only wants to have sex and even when we do have sex he doesnt make sure I have good time too only him he gets to nut and just goes to sleep like I do everything in sex and I cant even have a orgasm in sex idk what to do anymore idk how to tell him we dont have fireworks nomore always WORK AND KIDS