Just need a little vent

I just tried to read a bit to my 3 stephchildren and I love them to death. No question about that.

But they are spoiled rotten by their mom.

They are just back with us after a week at their mom's and definitely the smallest one, who is now 7, is extremely poorly behaved everytime he gets back from their mom. They have too much freedom and he gets the upperhand always, if he is wrong his mom makes it right and punishes the brothers.

I needed to have a 30 minute long speach only about respect today after I tried to read. Obviously they WANT me to read, they ask me to read to them. Yet they don't want to bring up any respect for my reading.

I cannot even finish 1 page without interruption because one is jumping up and down or intentionally bullying the brothers.

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Either way I know the smallest one has full control of their house hold and has litterally told us he doesn't like to be with us because he can't claim the tv upon his wish.. Which is.. You know.. 7yo logic 😂 but if that is his reality it's really hard to come into a household where you have limited screentime and you need to earn the screentime you get AND you have to do as told AND you have to be respectful.

Today he told me he loves me as much as his mom and more than his dad and stephdad, and I tell him I love him too but if you love me, then why don't you show it by showing some respect? (to his mom as well)

I would really appreciate allowing to tell a story without the interruptions..

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Anyways I am going to try a new tactic tomorrow.. I'm going to allow him to choose 1 book I read to him at the end of the week if he can behave during story time.. Today he said I pick books that aren't interesting to him.. I went for fantasy as I assumed that was nice for everyone but he tells me he doesn' t like it (yet didn't even know what the book was about, so I think he had just not been listening).

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Either way I'm also scared too.. I'm now 4 weeks pregnant (so still very very early) and he doesn't shy away from hitting me... Which is also a respect thing.. He's a very small and skinny 7-yo.. Weighs less than his 4 yo nephew and they are about thesame hight. So he always gets away with shit like that.. People (mom especially) think it's cute and don't even think about correcting it.. I'm just really scared for my baby too... We've been ttc for a very long time so I am extremely scared to lose it 😞 I know it probably shouldn't hurt too much as my body still protects it.. And I tell him not to hit me and he hasn't been hitting me so often anymore but he forgets sometimes..

We're not planning on telling them I'm pregnant until at least we have had an ultrasound or something