Would you call this a form if rape?

Why the hell don’t YOU want a divorce? Sweetie, know your worth. This man is disgusting. I’m an anal enthusiast but if my husband every treated me this way...he’d never get it again...or me in anyway.

If it were me, divorce would be a blessing at this point. It is rape and you can change your mind any freaking time, that doesn't give him the right to treat you the way he did. This entire story shows how very little respect he has for you (if he has any at all, doesn't sound like it to me). You have every right to feel the way you do and I hope you find the courage to drop this pos and find happiness.

He was willing to hurt you (without your consent) for his own sexual gratification, so honestly if I were you, I would divorce him.

Wow I could have written this myself. This is exactly me and my husband except I have just caved and let him do it a handful of times. Its always hurt me but the nagging and begging just gets so annoying. I also have a hemorrhoid from my first baby and he literally doesn’t care that it hurts me, he only wants what he wants. It’s something I can’t understand. You definitely aren’t at fault in any way. The real issue is his selfishness. He’s not supposed to care about his sexual desires more than not hurting his wife.I don’t know how you feel about porn or if that is an issue in your marriage but my personal opinion is that it’s what has fueled this in my marriage and many others. I know a lot of people would disagree, but porn teaches that women are supposed to do anything, everything, at any time, and are put on this earth to fulfill men’s desires. It takes the humanity and worth from women and turns them into objects for mens use. Most men have watched porn or are current porn users and I think this fiction about women rubs off on them and affects the way they treat their own wives. I don’t know what to tell you other than I’m sorry, I know how you feel, and you’re not at fault. I don’t know the solution here. I’d try calming talking to him and telling him how you feel. I think sometimes in marriage the lines between whats yours and what’s his becomes confused and you need to make it clear that your butt is off limits. And if you want to get technical, buttholes aren’t designed for sex and it can be dangerous and cause issues. It’s become so normalized but from a physical stand point it’s not normal

Honey it dosen't matter that you're married if you say no and he soar it anyways it is rape..and the fact that he did that to you knowing that it would hurt you it is horrifying and that is not the type of relationship you should be having.

You should serve him divorce papers!!! You deserve betrer than that pos. I am sorry you have to go through this

But you told him to go ahead and do it.. How is that rape? You should have told him no end of convo.

You told him to go ahead and do it. You were not raped. Either way, he should have gotten the point that you were not interested. I would be upset with that as well.

I would’ve called the cops🤷🏻‍♀️ no husband who loves you will do that. Take your kid and leave I’m so sorry that happened

Girl, not only is he a rapist but the fact that he keeps asking for anal makes me think he is gay too. Get out because his sexual violence and abuse is not going to stop. It will only get worse. You owe it to your child not to expose them to a predator. Get out now. Sending you lots of hope hugs and love.