Hey everyone!

So... I’ve been with my husband for 3 years now and we’ve experienced some issues in the sack since the first time we tried to have sex. I’m now 29 and he’s 36. For the first several months that we were intimate he was plus either get hard and go limp before entering me, go limp part way through sex, or fail to get fully hard at all. We had a few “successful” lovemaking sessions during that time and he would always make sure I was taken care of. We talked about it and he explained to me that he always had issues getting it hard with new partners. I expressed concerns about a physical issue as I had thoroughly googled erectile dysfunction at that point but he reassured me that he thought the issue was a phycological block, not physical. I had known him for years before we got together, genuinely loved him, and decided to work through whatever bedtime issues were going on because the beautiful relationship we were forming was worth it.

Flash forward to today... We’ve been married a little over a year and he’s the best dad to my 4 year old daughter and the most incredible husband. We have an extraordinary sex life and a great relationship outside of the bedroom! But... I figured out along the way that he doesn’t ejaculate during vaginal intercourse. I can literally count on one hand the amount of times he’s gotten off with me, both BJ’s and vaginally. The first time he came inside of me was this past March and he got me PREGNANT! Unfortunately, I miscarried in June at 13 weeks...

Since then we’ve been trying to conceive with no luck and he’s only cum inside of me one other time. We’ve talked about it as a couple because we’re both concerned it will get in our way of conceiving and I’m concerned that he’s not sexually satisfied. He has told me that he doesn’t masturbate often, which is the only sure way for him to achieve climax. I’ve encouraged him to achieve a climax after intercourse either alone or with my help and he just doesn’t quite seem comfortable with that.

He still seems to think that the issues are psychological, a mental block if you will. I really want to help him find his “dumb and happy” place during intercourse so that I can help him achieve greater satisfaction and so that we can conceive successfully.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What did you do to work through this (men and women’s advice welcome!)? Have any of you successfully overcome a delayed ejaculation disorder? PLEASE HELP!!!