Could you stop pitying anyone or anything if you saw the value in it?

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If pity only increases suffering, could you stop????
How do you stop? 
I don't think I can stop over-feeling for other people? Even though it's not necessary to feel another person's feelings?

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Empathy and pity are different. Pity is feeling sorrow for the person’s struggle, while empathy is the ability to understand what they’re going through. I think sympathy is more correct here... 
I would never stop sympathizing with a person, as long as it doesn’t affect my mental health and well being. 
The minute you feel a relationship is making you suffer mentally is when you should take a step back.

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I’m kinda having this text conversation right now ☹️
Someone is on their nightly suicidal thoughts texts and I can’t handle it anymore. Ive lost so many people and I’m getting tired of repeating how they shouldn’t go through with it. It’s not that I don’t care it’s just I’m fed the fuck up. I’m not strong enough to handle discussing it every single day.

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Empathy ￼and pity are not the same thing.  That said I empathize with others I try to not pity them.  
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Interesting topic. No. We are not robots. We can't control our feelings, we can only control our actions. I have this conversation with my very empathetic child every week, sometimes multiple times a week.

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It takes a lot of work and discipline to stop taking on other peoples energies and emotions if youre an empath. You can definitely get to a point where you have that control but you have to continuously work at it. 
Im working on it at the moment. I started following this lady on instagram, she's really insightful about empaths and empathy in general. Gives you a lot of insight into who you are and why you feel the way you do, and how you can harness your energy into a positive flow rather than the negative roadblocks we face if we're unaware/not working on ourselves. Check her out, jane_lightworker :)

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I really struggle with this and I find myself feeling really guilty if I don’t do everything in my power to help the people I care about, even if I’m unable to help them. I have friends who have been through some awful situations and it breaks my heart thinking about it, almost as bad as it would if it happened to me. I have friends who often come to me feeling suicidal and I can’t even count how many time’s I’ve talked them out of suicide, for me to end up feeling suicidal instead. Obviously I’d never tell them this because I wouldn’t want them to feel like they can’t talk to me about what they’re going through, I care about them and don’t want them to feel alone. I just wish I could do it without feeling exhausted and depressed after.

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I don't pity anyone. 
I think pitying is a bad quality. You should always strive to be empathetic, sympathetic and compassionate to people. 
Yes, people can stop being empaths but they turn into very cold hollow people.

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I mean kinda 
When my friends dad got murdered 
I said my condolences, but she begged me to not show her pity and to not treat her differently 
So I didn’t, and because I didn’t treat her like she was so breakable I was the only one she actually talked to about it

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Not everyone will agree with this but always put yourself before other people. Always. It’s fine to have compassion and sympathy towards others but not to the point where it drains you and exhausts you. I once had a friend who literally talked about how she was suicidal over her cousin not paying her back. Sorry but that’s stupid to me and I don’t have the energy to listen to her if that’s her biggest problem in life

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I can’t I just want do it in front of their face if it is harmful to them.