My husband works late nights three times a week and doesn’t get home until after I’m in bed. Saturdays are the only full day we both have off together. Whenever it’s time for me to go to bed Saturday night, he then goes over to his mom’s house for a few hours (10, 11ish at night). I get anxious when he’s not home and therefore am unable to sleep/sleep well.

All the other nights of the week, he tucks me in and then goes back to the couch to watch tv and most nights ends up falling asleep out there.

I’ve asked many times that he would just commit one night a week (at a minimum) to coming to bed with me. We’re TTC and I’m not sure how we’re supposed to do that when he never comes to bed. He claims he’s never tired when I go to bed; however, he will fall asleep almost immediately if he lays down.

I feel lonely ALWAYS and he makes me feel like I’m asking too much. I believe our relationship should be his priority and not himself (wanting to do what he wants like seeing his mom or catching up on his TVs shows).

(Side note: yes, he’s actually at his mom’s and is not out elsewhere before you start jumping to conclusions)

Am I in the wrong or is he? Anyone else in a similar situation?