So I need advice with my LDR but with that being said I might need to give you a little backstory. So I just turned 17. My father was never around and my mother had a hard time with addiction. She loved and took care of me to the best of her ability tho. I was homeless from the ages of 11-14 my mother had my little sister when i was 12 so I raised my sister completely by myself until i was 14. Sadly both of my parents passed away when I was 15. I moved in with my grandmother on my moms side because I didn’t know my dads family very well and she ended up putting her hands on me so I moved in with my aunt and uncle(whom I call mom and dad now) on my dads family in April. With all of that being said I’m very mature for my age that’s not me saying that but what other people say I always think there is room for improvement. Well now to the LDR I met my current boyfriend( we will call him Jake for privacy reasons) through my older brother who had know him for six years before I moved in. None of us have met him in person but we have video chat him so we know he’s real. Jake and my brother met online. Well Jake lives in Connecticut while I live in Tennessee so we are around 15 hours away from each other. Almost every one in my family knows who Jake is just because of how long my brother has known him so whenever I bring him up all of my sisters and parents even my new grandmother knows who I’m talking about. Well Jake has family issues his mom never does anything for him and he takes care of his little sister plus he’s homeschooled so he’s home all day. His parents won’t let him get a job so he has no way of getting money to save up so we can met. His mom has said the only way we could met is if I pay for his family to come down which would include him, his mom, dad, and sister also possibly his aunt and uncle. With all those people I’d also have to pay for 2 hotel rooms and their gas money for here and back or plan tickets here and back. It’s just too much to ask for from a 17 year old who doesn’t have a job because I go to public school( for 7 hours a day )and I play two sports so I never have time after school to do anything most of the time I don’t get home until 9 or 10 at night. But he gets to stay home all day and he only has to do 4 hours of computer work so he has 20 hours he can do anything with but he spends most of his day sleeping or playing video games. He never talks to me anymore if we do talk I have to start the conversation and it’s for not that long because I do have to sleep sometimes and yes I will admit I’ll get snappy at him but it’s because I’m tired of being the only one who is putting effort in. I’ve tried talking to him about it and he always says he’ll do better my brother has even talked to him about it and he says the same thing to him. But he always goes back to doing the same thing. My problem is that I don’t want to be in the relationship anymore I’ve tried but I’ve lost the feeling of being in love with him I will always have love for him but as having respect and love for him as my boyfriend potentially someone who I could spend my life with it’s just not there anymore. We used to date but because he wanted all of my brothers attention he would cause arguments between me and my brother(he admitted to this it’s not something I think he did) we spilt up he said he was doing better and fooled me into believing he was but I had built that wall up and I did want to get back with him but I just had no trust for him so my brother helped me and got us back together. My brother has worked very hard to help our relationship so I don’t want to end things and hurt my brother. I would normally just go tell my brother how I feel but I feel like he’s gonna be hurt plus he’s gonna try to justify or keep us together. So with that being said I’m trying to think of ways for him to leave me because at this point I’m miserable. The reason I’m so stressed over this is because I’m gonna go to college to become a surgeon and I want kids at a young age so yes realistically I know I don’t have to rush things but in my mind I feel like I have to I have bad diagnosed OCD so to me I have to plan out every aspect of my life. With all of the time and effort my brother has put into our relationship me just telling my brother how I feel or leaving Jake because it’s my life is not an option so I need other ways for this to end.