She broke in both times this happened. We haven't heard from her in over a year. He lives with his parents and I live with mine right now. We are trying to save up for a house to move in together. The past couple years have been going pretty good. His parents pick up his son and sometimes his daughter(not as much anymore) so when he's home and they're over he gets to see them. But as far as him going to pick them up it doesn't happen anymore. And he could barely move her back as shes a huge woman and didn't want his son to see him be too rough. I've been around both his children a few years ago at least every few weeks. But shes just gotten crazier since then(whenever she snaps). She doesn't want me to be their step mother. He does see his children but is not interacting with her. As far as I know. And we work together so it would be hard to lie to me about working and meeting up with her. I know she calls his parents house when he's not home. He agreed to getting a restraining order.

@sarah

What I don't understand is why would she try to say she was with him on the days he was at work or with me? Why not use the times we really weren't together? He told me after the incident he was going to get visitation at least. But I dont know if he will follow through. We have been on for 2 years and after a year of it going well he said he was ready to have kids with me. We have been trying almost a year. I believe she just got out of another relationship recently and that's why we haven't heard from her

@lisa

What makes you think we cant afford to live on our own? We could rent but I would rather buy and I'm not settling for a house. Also none of our parents work so we are both paying all the bills at home. His parents are currently disabled and my parents are retired. I want a house of my dreams. And both our parents know we are ttc and they're fine with it. She is bigger and taller than him too. Shes made sure his parents aren't there when she acts out cuz she knows they'll put her on check and I'm assuming she doesnt want to lose her relationship with them too. I don't like his son seeing violence either. He freaked out when he saw the way the cop talked to his mom and it got my boyfriend upset. The last thing he wanted was to see his son like that. I asked him to give her chances a few years ago since they had kids together and it was just toxic. She was abusive even when I wasn't involved. From what I gather shes just doing anything to ruin our relationship cuz its either her or nobody. She hates hes moved on cuz she goes on about how they have a family together. I personally think two happy homes are better than one miserable one.