Was I over reacting ??

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So today my boyfriend told me he had a job interview and when I was leaving to drop our son off I seen him leaving from his other children’s mom house and me and him got into a huge fight because he did not communicate with me and let me know that he was going over there the argument was so bad I packed his things and told him to leave and we have a son also and when he was leaving he was talking a lot of shit, like shit he ain’t never said to me before even told me he regretted having a son with me and mind you me and him have been together for 10years this man has had a kid on me and all and I still stood by him and then he told me he got the job but I’m still mad asf at the fact he didn’t tell me and I literally saw him leaving like I don’t get it

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Probably unpopular opinion but id be mad that you packed my bags and told me to leave without having a calm conversation..

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Correct me if I’m wrong...but you’re mad that he went to see his other kid at the mom’s house? Unless there’s more to this situation, he shouldn’t have to get permission from you to be able to go see his other child. If you can’t understand why he was there and if you can never be okay with him going to the other mom’s home whom he has a child with, you’re with the wrong guy...I’m sorry to say, but I think you’re acting very unfairly. I mean, is he literally not allowed to see his other child?

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The short answer is yes.

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Didn’t mean to post anonymously it’s me my situation an yes they do have history of cheating in the past any other times he lets me know with out me asking and he said he was going to see his kid after I saw him other than that I’m sure he wouldn’t have told me I came here to vent because there are women that give great advice on this app and I wanted someone else’s input on the situation I trust him and definitely don’t keep him from his child and I also encourage him to be apart of his other child’s life so that’s why I’m wondering why he didn’t feel the need to tell me and as a women I’m sure if this was going on with you and he has cheated multiple times that you would probably pack his shit to

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I would say that he has another child so he was probably visiting them but I would be mad as hell too I have little trust in people so I would be suspicious as to why he didn't tell you he was going over there because that's what a relationship involves communication.

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I think you over reacted and sound really insecure. You need to apologise and talk about your issues with him because your relationship will never move forward if you don't communicate how you feel with him. He also needs to communicate with you about how he feels when you treat him like that and then both of you can move forward

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Is this child the product of cheating? Is that what has u so untrusting?

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Are u saying while u and him are together he has another baby ? So ask ur self why u stayed , and yeah he lied said he was going to a job interview but went to see his kid ? Maybe he didn't tell u bc you probably would of not wanted him to see his other kid but if he did cheat on u with that woman who has his kid now , why didn't u leave him and u would of never felt this way now if u just LEFT and ur clearly asking if ur over reacting bc u know you won't ever leave him , he can clearly cheat on u and you'll forgive,  their a difference with cheating that u can try to forgive  and cheating and having a whole baby , why rant if u know you probably won't leave him , he has a whole diff baby momma not just you so you'll need to learn to accept that

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I feel like now you have more problems than what you started with. Because you’re concerned about why didn’t he tell you he was going to his baby mamas house and that led to him saying some disgusting things to you. You should never tell someone you regret having a child with them. Not only are you saying you regret creating a family with someone you’re supposed to love but on top of that it’s a slap to the face to the child. If you have concerns then ask his baby mom what was he doing over there, other than that there’s no other way of knowing what he was doing. It could be something as simple as seeing his child to something completely different and awful. Communication is key.

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