Feeling bored in my relationship ..?

Question

I am 25 year old woman, junior in college, full-time employee, and I have one child. I am pretty much busy all the time but I make time for things important to me. With that being said, I have been in a relationship for that past 8 months. we have known eachother for about a year. Lately, I have been wanting way more out of my relationship than I have been receiving. We only see each 4 times a month maybe even 2 or 3 because only see each other once a week. As everyone knows, in order to build a successful relationship , you must see each other more in order to bond. I have mentioned to him that I'd like us to see eachother more and he said we will figure out how to make it happen. We do both have opposite schedules. My daughter is gone every weekend so I never understand why he won't just see me some weekends for the whole weekend. Like spend the night for 2 days or something. When we see each other it is fun, we go out try new restaurants but I just feel like I still have a disconnect or something. I try to come by his house but he lives with his mom ( i have met her) but he never invites me over sometime on the weekend. I don't want to invite myself or always ask. I have brought it up to him and he said he loves me very much but he isn't where I am yet, it takes him a while to get where I am at in the relationship. But all I want is to be spend more time with him, I get I can't see him everyday but I atleast want to feel wanted (not sexually). I want to know that he wants to see me. Sometimes I wanna hear that he wants drop by when I get off on Fridays to spend the night because he wants to see me.
My next problem is that I have a coworker, who I am attracted too and they are so attracted to me. They want to go out on dates and take trips together. I can't of course because I am in a relationship. But I find myself flirting with him sometime and I don't understand why. I am supposed to be happy in my relationship with my boyfriend and in love. But I also feel like I am missing something. Like my relationship isn't progressing. I am feeling slightly bored, unwanted and just idk. Please give me some advice on what you think and etc..
Please be nice. Thanks for your time.

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If your even feeling this way then it’s a sign that the relationship you are in is not giving you what you want. He even admitted that he’s not where you are. So why wait for someone that is not definitely going to be what you want when there is someone else willing to treat you how you want to be treated?!
Of course, tell boyfriend how you feel and go from there first. But don’t let someone else hold you back. You need to do you!

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Flirting with someone outside of your relationship basically means you’re lacking something in your relationship so you’re seeking attention elsewhere. 
It doesn’t sound like your boyfriend is really willing to move forward and after 8 months, he should be more serious about things. I was only with my boyfriend for 6 months before I moved in with him. After a few months of dating, it was getting harder and harder to spend time with him so I put my foot down and told him either we spend more time together and build our relationship up or we are both wasting each others time. He either wanted the relationship to work or he doesn’t. He got the hint and here we are 3 years in. 
Tell him that he needs to get it together or he’s just wasting your time. Actions speak louder than words. If you don’t really want to continue the relationship then end it before you invest too much time into something you don’t really want.

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Completely relate.
Where I'm at in my life, I don't really want a relationship where I see someone once a week, if they're my boyfriend. 
That's a fwb thing, in my opinion.  
I feel the same way seeing my boyfriend one day a week: Disconnected & like it's not progressing AND like other people are able to attract more of my attention, because I don't have the connection I am in a relationship for if I feel disconnected due to a lack of quality time.
At this point in life, I know how to avoid flirting, I don't want any confusion about where my loyalty lies. 
But I'm just saying, I get you. Maybe we both have "quality time" as our love language. For me, talking on the phone helps, but texting doesn't do much of  anything to make me feel connected. And just enjoying time spent together doing very simple things is what means the world to me.
I get that people can be busy, but I have my needs, expectations & preferences. There's a lot of people out there who would spend more time by now. It may or may not be a deal breaker, that's for you to decide. 
I'm currently staying with my partner, because he puts effort in when I complain & never gets mad at my antics, lol. Nobody could be as cool and chill as he is. We really do connect, but he's inconsistent about fulfilling my emotional needs, I think he just doesn't need the same thing as I do right now.

Feeling bored in my relationship ..?

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