I am and have been in a happy and healthy relationship with my SO for 3 years now. Recently we just got a roomate for the first time and i find him attractive. I expressed this to my SO and its totally normal to find other people attractive. I keep fixating on this thought and its been a month now and still am obsessing over these thoughts. I also had a dream of us all having a three some. He is someone who i would not want a realtionship with nor would i ever want to leave my SO, he is my soul mate and the love of my life. Also, my boyfriend loves honesty so we ended up even talking about it with the roomate lol it was awkward. The dream happened after this conversation. I know that i am in control of my thoughts but wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences? Thanks!