I'm hurting right now. I have nobody to talk to. I desperately need advice. My BF has a situation with his ex from years ago that caused her to put a restraining order on him (he never touched her). Years ago, before we started dating he violated his restraining order by contacting her. (When he did contact her he was unaware that there was a restraining order because he'd never been served.) Despite her restraining order she's purposely remained close to his family. She has sent messages to him through his family. Trying to reconcile. His family loves her and really wants him to be with her so they are distant with me.

Since we have been together he hasn't spoken to or dealt with her. However, he had an active warrant due to violating the restraining order years ago. He got arrested due to warrant and I bailed him out. He has an upcoming court date for this.

We were in town for the holidays and while we were in town she popped up at his mom's 3 times. The first time we were out running errands for his mom and when we got back he noticed her car there so he kept going. He called his mom and told her we were on our way back. By the time we got back she'd left. The day before Thanksgiving we drove 6 hours each way, for his mom, to go pick up his uncle, his mom's brother, that she hadn't seen in years, to bring him to his mom's home for the holiday. My daughter stayed with his mom while we made the trip. When we arrived back to his mom's the ex was there again. He didn't know she'd be there but once again noticed her car when we arrived. He made me stay in the car while he walked his uncle inside and told my daughter to leave with us. I was hurt because I was made to stay in the car and because his mom would allow her to be there while my daughter was there knowing we were coming back.

He said he didn't speak to her but we argued about it because I felt betrayed. He said it's his mom's house and his mom and family has been close to his ex for years, that they talk daily and he couldn't tell her who to allow at her home.

He had been having problems with his job not paying him so, I supported him financially to make the trip and to buy things for the holiday dinner. We left for about 30 mins and went back to his mom's and by then, she had left again. But I was still upset and hurt. He took my daughter and I to get clothes that we were to wear for the family get together for Thanksgiving.

The tension between he and I continued and got personal... he said some hurtful and embarrassing things to me in front of his family. (His comments were personal about me. We didn't discuss her in front of his family.) This continued when we woke up the next morning. We stayed the night at his mom's and on the morning of Thanksgiving he told his family he was getting a hotel for us. Before we left his mom's he asked me to talk to him in private in the car. He apologized to me for the things he said in front of his family. He said he loved me and wanted to make the day special for my daughter and I being that we were away from my family. He also said he wanted to talk to his ex about the restraining order because he felt that if he talked to her she'd drop it and it would help his pending case. (He's still fighting the violation of restraining order charges from years ago, and has an upcoming court date.) I was against him talking to her. He said he understood and agreed that he wouldn't. He also apologized to his family for what he said to me and how he treated me during our argument.

He took my daughter and I to the hotel and his mom called saying she needed him to go pick up some things and bring it to her. He said he would be right back to get us. He said if his ex showed up that he'd leave. He also said he'd call and video chat while he was gone. However, he didn't. Instead, he avoided my calls and stayed at his family's house all night. He finally called me back after midnight saying his ex came to his mom's and the entire family had a talk with them together. He said it was about the restraining order only and that they never talked alone. (I don't know if I believe that)

He said since I was upset and he was tired and didn't want to come back to our room just to deal with drama. He said he understood my feelings were hurt but that he felt it was the smart decision to talk with her and spend time with his family. He said it was a big deal and that's why he didn't answer my calls. He video chatted to show me he was at his mom's and that she was no longer there. He said he didn't want to be with her but didn't want to deal with me being upset about his decision.

My daughter and I spent the holiday alone, no family, no dinner. I just found out that I was pregnant and all of his family knows. I've given up my home and my job because we were planning to relocate out of state after Thanksgiving. We have been living in hotels....

I understand him wanting to do what he can to help his case but I can't help but feel like he purposely took us to a hotel, left us saying he was coming back for us, knowing he wasn't because he knew she'd be there and he intended to talk to her the entire time. I also can't help but to feel like his family was encouraging them to reconcile.

I'm devastated and don't know what to do.... We were pregnant earlier this year and I miscarried. He said he wanted a baby so we kept trying. Now I'm pregnant again and this happens. I feel alone with nowhere to go.... What do I do? Am i overreacting? Should I trust him? I've been up crying all night with nobody to call. I'm humiliated....

We're supposed to go spend time with my family next week... Do I still go with him? If I show up alone my family will suspect something's wrong.. I don't want to call anyone in my family and make matters worse plus I'm embarrassed.... We've had our problems but overall he's been supportive and I was looking forward to spending our lives together. Any advice would help. Thank you in advance.