Is it normal that i feel like this? Feeling down

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Im pregnant the same time as my SIL (husbands bros wife). Our 1st after alot of struggle, their 2nd.

Our due dates are less than 1 month apart. Hers is late june mine is early july.

Me and husband tried for nearly 3 years, clomid, <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">iui</a>, <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">ivf</a> which resulted in a chemical at nearly 5 weeks. So this natural pregnancy came as a big surprise, a good one of course. Husband told me today that Sil is expecting, is it normal that i feel really upset and annoyed by this? I think its because it feels like our special time is being taken over and dampened. I just wanted to feel special for once 😔😔😔😔😔. I know i should just be greatful but i cant lie, i do feel really really crap about this, especially since our dates are So close. We dont talk or really vibe or get along. Any advice?

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You’re feelings are valid, and I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. If you have a good relationship with your SIL, maybe try talking to her. It’ll be uncomfortable but being able to express your feelings will help. 
I had something similar happen earlier this summer. My SIL got pregnant on accident, during the time I was trying to get pregnant, had a miscarriage when she was 18 weeks. It was really tough but I had a heart to heart with her and told her how I was feeling upset, jealous and envious of her. We were both crying but it helped so much to voice my feelings and we got even closer.

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My husband and I have been trying for a while now and when he told his family we were pregnant his brother told us him and his girlfriend of a few months were also pregnant. My SO and I were both kinda upset about it.

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I think it's normal.  I believe your feelings are genuine and expected.  My SIL and I were expecting at the same time, me with my second but my husband's first and her second.  Her baby wasn't even a year old and it wasn't planned and I felt like it was done intentionally to take away from us.  She said it was because she wanted to have a daughter before her mother died.  My sister was always competitive with me and insisted she'd have a daughter first.  Spoiler alert: not only did my SIL not have a girl she had a total of 3 boys back to back.  We had our girl after 3 boys together.  However her mother always loved her more and had little to do with us.  She's no longer part of our lives.  My sister has no children and is also not in our lives.

Is it normal that i feel like this? Feeling down

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