Hi,

So I have this weird situation that I’m not sure what to do about it.

We recently had a baby and she is now 10 weeks. I already started going to work. Luckily, I have my mom staying with us to help us out with the newborn.

Now the situation is one of my husband’s friend and wife. Prior to my delivery, they moved to our area. They started visiting us every weekend. Initially I was all for it but slowly I started getting the feeling that they invite themselves every week with the intention of having dinner at our place. So, now we have to cook for them every time they come.

If that wasn’t enough, shortly after the first few visits, they informed us that they are pregnant. She would text me every Friday/Saturday asking if its ok to come for dinner. She gives reasons like she is tired and lazy to cook. Honestly, she seems fine to be whenever I have seen her. They very rarely bring any food or help us in the kitchen. Even if she offers to help, I say no because she is pregnant.

Thing is, my mom does all the cooking as I deal with the baby. I feel sorry for her because she works her ass off doing both the nanny and maid role all day. Only during weekends she would get time to rest. That’s when these guys would show up. Sometimes I tried giving excuses saying we are busy/not well but they still find a way in. As a person, I feel bad for thinking negatively about them and specially about a pregnant women but can’t help it. The feeling of taking advantage of us is very hurtful.

Being someone who was pregnant recently and with a lot of pregnant friends around I still don’t feel like justifying their actions.

I wanted to share this with someone. Thanks for bearing my ranting. Phew!