Any tips?

I lost my fiancé back in August and I made it through Thanksgiving. Christmas was something we did a lot of planning for. I put in a request at my job to work but I think they have enough people scheduled for that shift. I think what I’m trying to ask is how do you get through the holidays? I don’t want to be near my family because it seems like they say the most offensive things while trying to comfort me . I know it comes from a good place but I would rather not be around them. I quit drinking and smoking because he was older and I believe that’s why he had the heart attack.. I’m just smh probably overthinking it but I’m a planner . If Christmas is free of work I want to have a plan on how to spend it without slipping into a depressing state .