MIL rant

My mother in law watched our 2 year old son for a couple hours last night, so we could go to dinner with some friends. When we got back from dinner, she told us that he enjoyed playing in his new room. I stared at her stunned. My son’s main Xmas present is a new “big boy room,” since his current nursery will have a new occupant soon. We just got the twin mattress yesterday, and we’ve been decorating the room as a surprise for Christmas. She knows this. All of his Christmas presents from my family that had to be shipped were also in there. It was OBVIOUS he shouldn’t have been in there, and again, SHE KNEW. She made a point to say he liked his new bedding (Dory, bc that’s his favorite). I was/am really hurt, because I felt like she took this moment from us for showing him his new room that we’ve worked so hard on.

Her response when we called her out on it? “Oh he won’t remember it all anyway.” WTF?! Yes, he absolutely will. I’m so so so mad. It was such an unnecessary thing for her to do, and it’s just another thing in his life that she tries to steal from me as the mother.

Anyone else have a MIL like this? She drives me absolutely insane with her passive aggressive shit.

Update: She wasn’t successful in stealing our joy. We finished decorating the room, and my son ran in and said “whoooaaa!” 🥰 That’s a really big deal for him, because he’s autistic and still mostly nonverbal. He loves his new room, and we didn’t let our anger at my MIL ruin Christmas morning. 😊