Oldest not accepting sibling?

Question

I have an 11 year old and she refuses to even hold or go near her new baby brother... mainly she’s still upset that she didn’t get a sister. She doesn’t even want to go near him for a photo. But she will tell her teacher and friends how cute he is and that she’s happy to finally be a big sister 🤷🏼‍♀️ anyone else experience this?

Answer

If she’s acting different to outside people it’s because she’s seeking attention from you. Seems like she’s just acting and actually does like him, but she doesn’t want you to know that. Just spend more time with her, also try to spend quality time with them together so they can bond, but you need to help her realize that you love them the same. Maybe have her feed the baby (if you bottle feed) just try hard to get them together and give her reassurance at the same time, like have her play with him or even pick out what he wears for the day, and remind her “You’re such a good big sisters!”

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if she's not used to being around babies she might just be nervous as well, not quite the same but i'm currently 30 weeks pregnant and my brother (who is 19) has expressed quite a bit of anxiety about holding my daughter...scared to hurt her or not do it right so she might just be feeling nervous. just give it some time and just go at it slowly, maybe even try sitting down with her without the baby and talking about it? see why she's reluctant to go near the baby

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I was like that as a child. I felt pressured to hold babies as a kid when i didnt want to so after a while i hated being around babies because of the parents. I knew that meant id be questioned and made fun of like "come on hold the baby" "he/she wants to" etc. I felt weird to express my love babies around adults so i never showed interest or emotion but i did think they were cute and play with them just if we were alone. I say her alone not pressure her. She will feel more comfortable with time.

Oldest not accepting sibling?

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