Weird size

J

I have Alva's and we've been on the second snap for about a year now. The rise is completely unbuttoned. Sometimes, it seems like it's too tight, but the next snap is too big to where we get leg gaps😂 what's a lady to do?! I thought about trying the next snap but pulling the rise up, but I don't think there's enough room for that. Also, they're already bulky and I just can't get enough absorbency in them😭 we've given up overnight cloth because I just couldn't get him leak-free. He's about 22 months now.