Does anyone else get sad when they get their period, after months of trying?

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I’m trying to find the humor in my deep frustrations and sadness after months of trying to conceive (and I know there’s others who have been trying for years) and I can’t imagine the hurt and frustration they must go through every month after the endless days of tracking your ovulation, peeing on sticks, checking your daily temperature etc etc. I’m sure I’ve left out other million things that women do in order to conceive. 
The first few months of trying, I didn’t get upset as I do now. I thought “well, i knew it wasn’t going to be easy” but after trying for almost a year now it seems like each month of getting my period is like a stab into my heart and uterus so to speak. So if I don’t keep my wits about me, I’m afraid I’ll sink deeper into depression. 
When I was 30, (so four years ago) after feeling so sick for many months and years I finally got the answer to why I was feeling so sick, I was diagnosed with Lupus. It runs in my family so it wasn’t a shock to hear and I have been really great about managing my long range of symptoms, and have been medication free for years. I still wake up feeling god awful some days, but for the most part I’m feeling okay!
Most doctors, and information about trying to conceive with lupus isn’t positive, the words “can cause infertility issues” never bothered me before trying to conceive, and now every month after trying so hard to conceive naturally, I get my period and have a good cry.  I allow myself to feel sad, and then try to find the hope to start all over again next month.
I just wanted to see how many others feel the pain I do each month of getting your period? How many others get sad when people ask “when are you gonna have a baby?”.... What do you say, or do when insensitive people say things like “just have a baby already!”, “I would start trying to have a baby because you never know how long it can take!”
How do you find the courage not to snap at others, and how do you find the courage to stay positive and try again each month? After many months of trying, and seeing others get pregnant so easily (although nobody posts how long they have been trying) how do you keep going?
I could use all the baby dust wishes, I could get. And for anyone else who feels the same as I do. I hope your baby dreams come true soon too. ✨♥️🙏🏽

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I feel awful.  We’ve been trying for almost two years for baby number one and every period recently is just awful.  It’s all just like you said.  You’re not alone.  Sending Courage, strength and lots of love and light your way.  I believe we will have beautiful happy healthy families. At the end of the years of sadness will be tears of joy.

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😭😭 I felt this post.  Baby dust to you. 💜💜

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I totally understand this. It’s such a process. I never knew it would be so hard and I’m 27 trying to conceive my fourth child. My youngest is 9 months. I adore her and all my kids. I’m thankful but also eager to have our last because my fiancé is almost 39 and very ready to wrap up the baby making. We want one more to complete our family. We don’t want to be too old when our kids are in high school.

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Lupus runs in my family as well. When I began feeling off i thought it was that or thyroid disorder. Nope. I was diagnosed with a pituitary tumor. For 8 longggg years we ttc. I would cry in my bathroom each time af would show up, pick myself up off the floor (literally), clean myself up, put on a brace face and keep going. I finally got insurance back, began treatment and 11 months later it finally happened. It was the absolute longest 8 years of my life. The feeling of my body failing me hurt like hell. My hubby thought it was him but I knew it wasn't. Once you finally get that positive tho all those tears and all that disappointment disappears. It suddenly becomes worth it in every sense of the word. My mom would always tell me "God is waiting on that perfect egg that has that special baby meant just for you!" Sounds silly but that made so much sense. Bc now that I'm pregnant with my daughter and I've already bonded to her inside my womb these words ring so true!! God has a plan and right when I gave up and handed him the keys and control of the steering wheel he gave me my little girl i dreamed of. I was off & on depression meds for those 8 yrs. It got pretty bad at times but now i know it gave me the strength i needed and it made me who i am today. I'm praying for all you ladies! All I pray for now is bfp's for all ❤❤🙏🙏🙏

Does anyone else get sad when they get their period, after months of trying?

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