My bf fingered me today

So today he fingered me and it felt amazing cause I got neck kisses and everything felt grate but I wasn’t really turned on and now I’m swollen down there and it hurts to pee but not like the actual peeing it hurts when it like runs down out of the pee hole if that makes since but then when I get home and think about everything that he was doing I get so horny and I want him so much and I don’t understand why I don’t get horny while he’s doing it but I do when he’s gone

And I want him to do something I really like but idk how to tell him. Tips?