Frustrated!!

Ok so I know at least one person will say I'm being selfish but whatever I gotta vent.

So my father and mother in law are not very present in our lives. I love my father in law but I don't like my mother in law. My hubby doesn't even like her. She's not his biological mom. I asked my hubby in the beginning of December to check on Christmas plans with his dad so we can make sure that we have nothing clashing. He talked to his dad and we found out we have to drive damn near an hour away to go to my mother in laws daughters house for Christmas. We don't ever see them, it's been years since I've been around these people and even my hubby had said that we werent gonna go because that's out of our way. Not to mention I'm gonna be 32 weeks pregnant so I'm uncomfortable and was looking forward to doing just the 1 Christmas instead of having to bounce around all day from place to place. Usually they do Christmas eve but I guess they chose to do Christmas Day this year so it's just more inconvenient. We always do Christmas Day with my family and I already cut one Christmas out with my family. Now he gets off the phone with his dad and tells me we are going to Christmas there and I'm pissed. We gotta go out of our way to go somewhere that I don't feel welcome, her whole family is 2 faced and passive aggressive. But of course it's always whatever my mother in law wants. Might I add she has never made the effort to even come visit my kids when they're born in the hospital but we're expected to go out of our way. She can't drive 20 minutes to see us ever but we're supposed to drive an hour?! Maybe I'm just hormonal and upset but I think it's complete bullshit. Not to mention last minute on making these plans which causes us to have to alter our other Christmas plans which now is gonna cause my dad to have less time with us on the day he usually has us there for Christmas. My dad goes out of his way for my kids and never fails to make sure I know my kids are loved.

They didn't care about seeing us on thanksgiving because they spent it at her parents house so that's just another example of how we really don't matter but now we're invited to a holiday and it is one where we have to go out of our way because it's where she gets to see her family. My father in law doesnt see his grandchildren because their entire life revolves around her and her wants. I know if I don't go and just let my hubby take the kids hell end up just staying there longer while I'm with my dad and then my dad misses out on time with my kids. My hubby will feel pressured into staying because that's how my mother in law is. I really don't like her. She doesn't let my father in law have a say in anything.

We didn't even see my father in law on fathers day because they went to her parents house to see her dad.

I get it.. It's Christmas and his family matters too but when we never matter it's like why now?