So my husband and I have been married for 5 years and have a 2 1/2 year old. He was engaged before me and he was with her for almost 7 years. The woman he dated before that was his college girlfriend, so we are taking over 12 years since they have been a couple. This girlfriend will be called Tina (mostly for privacy reasons and also because I dislike the name -sorry to all the Tina’s). My husband is pretty successful and comes from a small town so we have had to deal with some thirsty women messaging him. These just get blocked no response necessary. It’s happened 5 times.

Now his ex is a different story. Tina still talks to his mom on Facebook. I’ve never told his mom not to talk to her (it’s not my place) and maybe that gives Tina the extra courage to feel like she can reach out. My husband isn’t friends with her on Facebook so when she sends him a private message it pops up as a request. He tells me every time she’s messaged him (this is the 3rd time) and he’s never responded. The first time she reached out was because his uncle passed away and she said sorry. He told me and I told him if he wanted to respond and say thank you that would be fine. He decided not to because Tina has caused problems in his last relationship and he just said it would be better not to open the lines of communication. Fast forward and our daughter is a year old and she messaged him again saying she heard a song and it reminded her of him blah blah. Again he tells me and doesn’t respond. Now a year later she messaged him again saying our daughter looks like him and hoping he is well.

It’s all been innocent enough and not super frequent but it’s enough to just piss me off. Why after all this time are you messaging (she single now and is approaching 40 just BTW) my husband just wants to block her (we didn’t previously because we didn’t want to be mean since she does still talk to his mom) but my petty side wants to respond to her. What do you all think? Am I just being dramatic? Should I just leave it alone and block her?

We don’t live in the same states either so it’s not like we see her anyways

Also- thanks for reading this far appreciate any feedback! Cheers!