I need some advice, or kind words, or something. My husband and I have a 5 month old of which I stay home and take care of. I work a part time job, and he works a full time job. We have literally NO money. I make just enough to pay some bills and he makes enough to cover the rest. No money left over for saving or even groceries. My husband refuses to seek assistance through the government or look for a new job. I’ve explained to him time and time again that we cannot continue to live off of $14/hr from him, and from me working 15 hours a week. His job pay differs but his usual wage is $14/hr. In the summer he will sometimes get jobs that pay as much as $66/hr so he insists on keeping the job, letting us struggle for the winter, and waiting for the summertime. Rather than just make more money year-round.

My mom works also so it’s difficult for her to watch our daughter for any longer than that. We can’t afford daycare, and all of the local daycares have wait lists 1-2 years long anyways.

My husband reminds me all the time that I’m nagging him and I really am trying SO hard not to nag him. It takes everything in me not to freak out every day. I cry almost every night. I feel so selfish bringing our daughter into this world when we can’t take care of ourselves.

I’ve suggested getting an overnight job and my husband freaks out because he doesn’t want to be left alone with the baby because “that’s his relaxing time”.

I just don’t even know what to do anymore. I’m expected to work (not much, but still work), do all of the housework, take care of our child, leave my husband alone for the rest of the day when he comes home from work, etc. I feel like I’m going through this completely alone. I understand this is like the norm or whatever but geesh I feel like I’m going to lose my mind!!!! I feel so hopeless.