I have been with my partner for 4 years. We have lived together for nearly 2. I got pregnant within 2 months of us moving in and now we have an 11month old.

Since the beginning i always felt I did more. Even though we worked the same amount of hours. I felt hard done by then. And now it’s got to the point where I feel we could break up because of this.

My partner said to begin with I just needed to ask! I didn’t want to ask, I wanted him to have the initiative to do it. We ended up making a rota. to which he didn’t follow. He then said I need to leave him too it! Which I did, it didn’t get done. Nearly 2 years on he claims he feels like a “slave” when I ask if he can do things. So Iv given up and do it myself. Running myself into the ground getting mor and more tired, more resentful. And feeling like I’m losing my self worth. We argue about this monthly. And they are blazing rows. Which do not get resolved anymore.

Will it just not work? Do I walk away and leave the father of my child over cleaning? Or is it bad for me to lower my self worth and standards in order to make it work?